My POV (Point of View)

Weddings in the time of Corona

Love waits for no one. And it shouldn’t! When two people like each other, they want to spend the rest of their lives together, that matters the most and should be enough to tie the knot, be it rain or shine.

Weddings are supposed to bring people together. It is said that: It’s not a marriage between two people but between two families. And we all know, the Indian weddings can get a little excessive. What with multiple functions spanning for an entire week, the number of people attending these functions, the money spent on all these functions. Especially the money spent on all the functions!!

Weddings were supposed to be a life event, now it has become more of a status symbol. If that person spent so much money on his son’s wedding, I need to spend more on mine! Not sure how much value is being given to the rituals, but the other aspects are being highlighted through these events. Everybody who knows everybody is invited. The bride and groom would hardly know 70% of the crowd who attends their wedding.

Reason: Indian weddings are handled by the parents. Parents need to show their community, family, colleagues and so on that their children are settling down and they go out of their way in doing so. Is it required? No. In most of the cases, the bride and groom hardly get the say while planning for their weddings.

The western lifestyle is much better when compared to us. The bride and groom plan their own weddings. Invite about 150-200 people and be done with it. Having said that, they go all out too, in terms of spending money and planning an extravagant event. But they share their vows in front of their chosen friends and family instead of inviting an entire city!

How are the Weddings being planned during this pandemic? Given the circumstances, it is necessary to push weddings to a more convenient time so their extended families and friends can attend?

I think not! For it is the happiness of the couple who is tying the knot and they should do so, as they want by their own rules, at their own pace. Rest are just semantics. At the end of the day, your family and friends’ blessings forever will be with you, no matter what!

And then, it could mean cost cutting too! Not that anybody would be worried about money now. They would rather worry about the wedding going on without any glitch. But it is happening anyway. We are saving money, when we are planning for a wedding in this pandemic. Which is Ok! We are just avoiding planning big gathering today, so we can celebrate future events in grand fashion.

Health above all!

It is completely fine, when you don’t want to attend any social gatherings. It only means you give preference to you and your family member’s health. And it should be that way. You don’t have to feel guilty of not attending an event and offending someone. They know well and understand in which circumstance these gathering are happening.

I have seen videos of couple getting married inside their house with just their immediate families present. It proved that true love waits for no one and everybody deserves a chance at happiness!

By Saudhamini Mylaram

HR by profession. Reading has always been one of my favorite things to do apart from gardening, cooking and driving.

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