Parents decide what their kids will be once they are older. At least that how it worked a couple of decades ago. They will decide what is best for their children. Right from clothes, career, life partner, etc. Parents of this category believe, that their children cannot make right choices even after hitting adulthood. They believe that their children don’t have enough exposure to ” the evil world we live in” to come to their own conclusions. They coddle their adult children too much. Best movie reference for this scenario is Bommarillu. Poor fellow, could not even pick a shirt of his liking without his father’s opinion.
Is parental guidance still needed for adult children? Parents constant approval is still needed in the choices their kids make? The simple answer is – No. Every adult child is absolutely capable of choosing what they want and follow through them. Parents not necessarily have to like them, they only have be content their kids are happy. If those choices happen to be wrong, a valuable lesson is learned!
Can parents always be right about the choices they make for their children? The answer yet again is No. Just the other day I was watching a very old interview of Shilpa Shetty. She was studying Commerce when she got opportunity to work in films. However, her father wanted her to complete education and take over the family business. She was glad she took acting as a profession and not Business. Had she chosen business they would have ended up in huge losses, because she was weak in commerce.
All of us have our own strengths and weaknesses. It is our job to identify what we excel at and make the most of it. Nobody but yourself are a better judge of what you want from yourself when you grow up. Also, parents these days are being more open towards their kids choices. Better late than never!